Review – My Salah Mat

As all Muslims know salah is an incredibly vital part of our lives. It is the beating heart of our day and for many of us it is a source of peace, humility and faith. When I came across My Salah Mat, I thought this is an absolutely perfect starting point for my children to help them with their salah practice.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Command your children to pray when they become seven years old…” [Abi Dawud]

As a mother of three young children, it is always on my mind that my children learn lots at school, but learning their deen starts from home. Parents, especially mothers are the first teachers for their children and teaching them about their deen shouldn’t be forced. It should be first shown by being a role model for them to look up to and learn from.

Salah is obviously something that we have been instructed to perform daily and it is something that we should strive to perform in front of our children so their love grows for it too.

My Salah Mat is a fantastic tool that can also support them in their learning and it is fun and interactive which is brilliant to keep children focused during their learning.

My Salah Mat

When I was growing up as a child, we had little resources available like the things that are available today. There is a vast amount of choice that doesn’t make learning boring or feel like time is dragging along whilst we struggle to learn.


What appeals to me is the visual attractiveness of My Salah Mat. It is inviting, appealing and easily laid out for children to follow the salah in order. If they forget a certain section, they simply touch the square that they have forgotten and the recitation will begin. The mat has 36 touch sensitive keys, which include the adhan, reminds little ones how to perform wudu, recites surahs and plays duas.

They can also be played in 7 different languages which makes it more accessible to people. What I also liked was the reminder on the mat of how many rakat each prayer had. There are also visual reminders for where the hands and feet must go.


For children with anxiety or special educational needs (which means they need to learn in a different way then your ‘typical’ child) the visual reminders are a brilliant tool to aid them in their learning. I am a huge advocate for visual learning and I use these tools with my children, especially when they were younger because they are excellent at reminding the child of the task in hand, aid them in the next step and lower anxiety levels as the visuals prepare for what is going to happen next.

The mat comes with a free 12 page activity book which is beautifully laid out. Once again, it is clear, visually attractive and it includes some charming activities such as word searches, spot the difference and colouring. Another thing that I love about the mat is the material. Obviously young children have accidents and if toddlers are enjoying the mat, they can obviously have spills and dribbles! So this is wipeable and as a mother with 3 young kids, that saves me worrying about washing and drying before the next salah!

Activity book

I always say to friends and family that spending in the way of deen for my children is a priceless matter especially if it aids them in their learning. I truly believe that My Salah Mat is highly beneficial to help children learn in fun interactive way, without the added pressure of memorisation on demand, and that for me is something all children will benefit from.

If you would like to purchase a Salah mat, you can enter a 10% discount code – 10yearslater10. Just enter at the checkout page. The code is valid until 16 November 2019.

What is autism?

April is known as Autism Awareness Month and as a special needs parent, I am so thrilled to raise more awareness and acceptance for Autism. What do you think of when someone asks you about autism? I bet you think of Rain man. You think of geniuses and quirky people and people who are highly intellectual. I know I did.

The truth is those people with autism are a small percentage. Autism is a spectrum which means it is so vast, there is no single person who has the ‘same’ autism. Every person with autism is unique and each one faces their own autism journey.

What is autism then? Well, autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how people perceive the world and interact with others. Some autistic people struggle with social interaction, others have sensory issues, while some face speech and language problems.

There is no ‘cure’ for autism and those organisations that claim they can ‘cure’ autism are targeting desperate parents who actually need help, support and guidance.

Instead, early intervention is key when receiving a diagnosis for autism, so the child has the best chance of leading a independent life. Early intervention includes strategies such as speech and language therapy, occupational support, and inclusion.

Autism is a complex diagnosis and support for those with autism and their families is very important. If you would like to find out more about autism, you can visit the National Autistic Society.

Say hello to MUHSEN

Special needs and disabilities are a very important topic in the Muslim community. In fact, in any community. As parents we want the best for our children and when our children have needs greater then that of a ‘normal’ child, we sometimes need help and support.

Everybody is a beautiful creation of the Beautiful Creator, regardless of “flaws” we perceive. As a community, we must think about easing the path for others that may have difficulties. Islam teaches us to aid those who are underserved in our society.

“Whoever relieves a believer’s distress of the distressful aspects of this world, Allah will rescue him from a difficulty of the difficulties of the Hereafter”. 

Hadith

I recently came across an amazing organisation called MUHSEN – Muslims Understanding and Helping Special Education Needs and it also means ‘one who does good.’ They are a non-profit umbrella organisation serving the Muslim community to establish a more inclusive environment for Muslims with disabilities.

MUHSEN was started to created a better understanding of Muslims with disabilities. They advocate, educate, train and implement programs and services nationwide in the USA (they are rolling out to other parts of the world too) to improve access to masjids for Muslims with disabilities and special needs.

MUHSEN state “Disability is not a topic that is talked about enough in the muslim community. Given that a large number of Muslims are living with disability, it is important for us to understand how to interact with people with special needs. It is also important that we make a place for people with special needs in our mosques.”


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MUHSEN also run a masjid certification program which outlines ways a masjid can be accessible to people with special needs. In the silver level of the certification program there is a focus on awareness. Having awareness panels geared on the topic of disabilities and khutbahs on disability are great ways to spread awareness to the general community. 

Ultimately, MUHSEN’s vision is to strive to lead in creating a better understanding of disabilities in Muslim communities and building a better future for them. This is something that all Muslims can strive to do for a stronger more inclusive Ummah.

TOP TIPS TO GET YOUR LOCAL MASJID INVOLVED

  • Contact your local masjid if they do not already offer special needs services.
  • Every masjid should offer services for community members with special needs and make people of all abilities feel welcome. 
  • MUHSEN has made it easy by outlining steps masjids can take towards becoming more inclusive (visit the website for more info).

You can email info@muhsen.org for more info or sign up to volunteer at muhsen.org

I see you special needs parents

I have a problem. I look through alot of parenting, motherhood, blogs and posts and I see something missing. I see a big percentage not being representative of parents who have children with special needs and disabilities.

This is something that I wished we saw more of, because I know exactly the struggles they face. There lives are not picture picture like so many of the posts we see. They face unimaginable challenges on top of the ‘normal’ parenting game.

You see, I am a special needs mother. It means that I have a child that needs more help then others. I am being honest today, as I’ve always wondered if I should share this with people, but what is there to be afraid of? People’s judgement? My child being judged? My child isn’t less then anyone else. In actually fact my child is MORE, because the situation taught me to parent completely differently. My child has an anxiety condition which means sometimes,  things can be alot tricky then it is for other kids. That’s it!

I know Allah SWT has my back, I know my intention to share this isn’t because I want likes or follows, it’s because I want you to know YOU ARE NOT ALONE. That, if you are a mamma with a child who is either severely disabled or someone like me who is blessed to learn the tools to help your child so inshaAllah, one day they will learn to manage their condition, I SEE YOU.

I see you SPECIAL mammas with your children.

I see your sleepless nights worrying what their future might be like.

I see you cry when schools tell you they can’t help you.

I see you running back and forth to appointments and worrying about your child’s development.

I see you struggle when you wonder how you will pay for therapists and doctors to help.

I see you worrying, will anyone come to your child’s party because nobody has ever invited them.

I SEE YOU.

Through my experience I have met and spoken to families who have to BEG for help. Some families have children who have massive hurdles to face, but no support is available. Some just don’t feel heard. Some don’t feel seen. Inshaallah it is my intention to create a community where you are seen and heard.

Are you a special needs parents?

5 important women in Islam

Today is International Women’s Day. A day to uplift women and bring them into the centre. On this day, I’m highlighting 5 important women who have had a huge impact on Islam. As women of today, we can learn so much from the these pious women of the past.

Khadijah

Khadija, also called Khadijah bint al-Khuwaylid, was the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be Upon him). She was an independent business woman and is famously known as the ‘Mother of the believers,’ because she was the first woman to accept Islam. Not only was she fiercely loyal to the Prophet (peace be Upon him), she was incredibly smart, kind, strong and supported him throughout her life. She is the perfect example of what a strong, pious woman is.

Aisha

After the death of Khadijah, Aisha was one of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuH). Aisha is a wonder. She was active in education, politics, and even had a role in the military leading troops in the Battle of the Camal. What we learn from the history books regarding Aisha is she was incredibly intelligent and has narrated well over 2,000 hadiths. She always emphasised the importance of learning and she was often sought out to give her opinion and knowledge from both men and women.

Fatimah

Fatimah was the youngest child of the Prophet (pbuh) and the only child who outlived him.

She lived a life of hardship and poverty. When she was growing up she saw her father constantly being mistreated and humiliated by the people he was preaching to. She would stand firmly by his side and defended the Prophet (pbuh) when he was subjected to physical and verbal harassment.

Her conviction in her father and to stand up for what was right is a beautiful reminder to us that even when it’s hard, we should always stand for the truth and do what is right.

Maryum

The mother of the Prophet Isa (Jesus), Maryum was a devout Muslim who spent much of her life in worship to Allah. When Allah SWT blessed he with a child, she was subject to slander, gossip and hurtful behaviour from others, but she remained steadfast in her faith and but her trust in Allah. How hurtful must it have been to be the subject of all those people, yet remember the purpose of it all and carry on.

Assiya

Finally, a woman that I admire alot is the wife of Fir’aun, Aasiya. She chose deen instead of a royal status and was subjected to torture by her own husband when she turned to Islam. When Fir’aun told her to turn back to worshipping idols or he would kill her she replied never and recited, “O my sustainer! Build for me a mansion in paradise by You and save me from Fir’aun and his doings and save me from all evil doing people.” Allah took her soul back before she was killed.

These women paved the way for women all over the world, through their perseverance, consistent faith and courage.

Miryam’s life was defined by piety, chastity and faith, Khadija, the first wife of the Prophet was wealthy, but never gave into pride or fame and power.

Fatima was crowned the ‘leader of all women,’ because on the face of hardship she had so much sabr. Aisha chose to learn and spread her knowledge to ensure the ummah never died and Maryum chose piety and solitude instead of the dunyah.

So as we post here on Instagram and share videos and messages to friends and family, may we remember these amazing women who not only taught us to have faith, but were a perfect example to us that we should aim for the akirah and remember to put Allah SWT above anything else.



10 life lessons

So since I become a mother at the age of 26, I learnt a lot of things. In fact my 20s, compared to most people in their 20s, taught me many life lessons. Here I share with you my top 10 life advice that I wish I had known earlier.


1. Ride the waves: The biggest thing I have learnt is to go with the flow of whatever is happening. Accept that the good and bad come from Allah SWT and everything passes. Time doesn’t stand still for anyone and everything passes. 


2. Children change you: Before I became a mother, I had a certain view of the world. I was a very one minded girl. Everything was black and white. When children came, another level of wisdom comes with it. It is the biggest gift that Allah can truly give you. Your children are a blessing but they can also crush you mentally. This is why the reward is so monumental and as a person if you grow with them, you will realise what life really is about.

3. Bite your tounge: I have always been opinionated and as the years passed, I learnt there is a time and place for expression. I always learnt that never express your opinion in anger as it always makes things worse. I normally sleep on the problem now and give it a day before I respond, so I’m more rational. 


4. Don’t let negative people bring you down: Don’t waste your time worrying about the negative attitude or opinions of others. Focus on the people that push you up and help you rise.

5. Make time for your loved ones: Life is short, it runs and the people you love should always be first. Make amazing memories and spend quality time together.

6. Work as a team: I’ve been married for nearly 12 years now! Where does time go?? But I’m that time I’ve learnt marriage is hard work, but worth it if you work as a team and put in the effort on both parts. Then you realise the importance of each other and it’s great.

7. Don’t follow the trends: Pave your own way and don’t follow societies trends. Be a leader, not a sheep. If you conform to every new trend, you will soon be feeling the pressure and real happiness only starts within.

8. Pray salah: No matter how hard things are, stick to salah. This is a fundamental part of keeping connected to the Creator and literally whatever you are facing, you won’t face alone.

9. Step away from the screen: I’m a great believer in balance. I know the word is screen heavy and it will probably get worse, but have a balance. Going outside is fundamental for your mental health and ponder on Allah’s creation.

10. Keep close to ALLAH: I pray that I always will be, but my relationship with Allah is the core of my being. I have submitted myself 100 per cent to Allah’s qadr and I pray with this inshaallah he will take care of me. If you put your trust in Allah wholeheartedly He will no doubt take care of you. I know sometimes I need reminding of this and maybe this is why trails and tests occur in life, but this is so fundamental to me. Keep tight to the deen and inshaallah you’ll flourish.AC